- Episode AI notes
- Change is always possible, regardless of age. Initiating positive communication and efforts towards building stronger relationships can have a significant impact.
- Repairing relationships is a powerful starting point. Acknowledging past mistakes and expressing care and willingness to listen can lead to small or significant changes.
Parenting is a journey of self-learning. Children trigger unresolved emotions and unprocessed issues, providing opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Time 0:00:00
Never Too Late for Change Summary: Change is always possible, regardless of age. Reestablishing a connection with someone may require effort, similar to learning a new language. The belief that it’s too late is the main obstacle to change. Repairing relationships is a powerful starting point, and initiating a conversation to acknowledge past mistakes and express care and willingness to listen can have a significant impact. It is crucial to understand that one conversation may not change everything, but it can lead to small or significant changes. Children are open to change and impact more than adults, making it even more crucial to initiate positive communication and efforts towards building stronger relationships.
Speaker 1
It is never too late. It is never too late. Is it going to take effort to reestablish a connection with your 24 year old? 100% just like it would take effort to learn a new language. But ironically, the belief that it’s too late is the single biggest thing that stops us from change. And then I would say like, what is one thing? What is one thing you can do? And to me, when we’re trying to establish a closer relationship with our kids or anyone, repair is often like the best starting point. If you just imagine your own parent calling you, like, hey, like, I’ve been thinking a lot about our relationship and the way I did things. And I just, I know there were a lot of things that felt really bad to you. And I get that. And you were right to feel that way. And I care about you. And I know we can’t do a complete 180 right now, but I’m willing to listen. And I want to do things differently. I just don’t know one adult who’s like, yeah, it’s too late. Like that would do nothing. I know plenty of adults who would say, I don’t know, I myself my guard up and that wouldn’t change everything. I’d say good. Now, one conversation shouldn’t change everything, but it might change one thing or it might change some things. And I think if we know that it would have that impact on us, well, our kids are younger than us and they’re even more open as a result.Parenting is a Journey of Self-Learning Summary: Parenting is a challenging journey that involves constant self-reflection and personal growth. Despite the initial expectations of children healing us, they often trigger unresolved emotions and unprocessed issues within us. This process of being triggered by our children can serve as an opportunity for self-development and growth. By addressing and resolving these internal struggles, not only do we become better parents, but we also experience personal growth and transformation.
Speaker 1
That’s a great starting point.
Speaker 2
I think I just have a reflection, which is just with all of these tools and all of these techniques, parenting is just so freaking hard. And I’m curious if you’re willing to share, like, when you maybe imagine parenthood and what it was going to be like. And then you experienced the reality. What have you found to be the most surprising, hard component of being a parent?
Speaker 1
Yeah. I think on some level, unconsciously, we think our kids are going to heal us. And the truth is our kids trigger us. Like they trigger us all the time. And so in that way, I think what I was unprepared for. And I think most people are unprepared for is like, parenting is just an exercise in like self development if we’re willing to take it on. Our kids trigger us, which really mean, oh, they bring up a lot of unresolved, unprocessed things in us. And am I willing to look in and say, okay, like, can I use those and grow? Because obviously it’ll help me grow as a parent. Ironically, it’ll actually help me grow more as a person because these things always kind of lived within me, but they just weren’t triggered as often.
